And the Oscar for Biggest Drama Queen Goes To...

It's not very often that I feel the need to go on a serious rant over how silly people can be.  However, this past weekend, I feel, is noteworthy.

After months of being away, I've finally returned to Canada.  I lived in California for almost 11 years and after quite a few complications, I've managed to get back here.  I flew from Sacramento, California to Syracuse, New York, via Los Angeles and Chicago.  My oldest sister (a.k.a. OldSis in a previous entry) lives near Syracuse.  She offered to pick me up from the airport and drive me across the border into Canada, so we could go spend the weekend at TwinSis's house.  During the weekend, we all got to reunite with my MidSis.  The last time I saw my MidSis was almost 11 years ago.  So this reunion--all four of us under the same roof--was long overdue.

The main drawback about this weekend circled around OldSis and her new boyfriend.

OldSis's new boyfriend is 18 years younger than her.  She also has three kids who are 18, 14 and 10.  OldSis has been married twice now and is newly separated.  Without even waiting for things to cool off, she leaped into this young punk's arms and during the past few days I got a front-row seat to a relationship that is heading towards being a complete disaster.

I don't ever plan on having children, but I am very protective of my nieces and nephews and after having seen how OldSis handles her relationship, I decided to say something.  Due to the fact we were visiting TwinSis and because I didn't want to start a war, I held my tongue all weekend to avoid an outright confrontation.

But now that the weekend is over, I did the only thing I thought was acceptable and sent OldSis a Facebook message and I was not gentle about it.  When she and her boyfriend argue, they do it in front of her kids.  The problem is that OldSis treats her boyfriend more like a mother telling off her son.  And when she doesn't get her way, she cries and storms off, but the worst thing she does is she lashes out at her kids when it's not even their fault.  If her boyfriend won't kiss her, she yells at her kids because he won't kiss her in front of them.  There were many other instances where she lashed out at them, but that's the only one I'll mention.

So I sent her that message.  It was long, it was blunt.  And as expected, it was not well received (which is pathetic, because she actually did ask for my honest opinion).  But I don't care.  I saw how miserable her kids were this past week.  I saw how scared her little boy was from getting yelled at for something that wasn't even his fault.  I saw how her youngest daughter cried because her mother yelled at her for something ridiculously childish and because her boyfriend wasn't letting her have her way.  OldSis can think whatever she wants of me, I don't care, but I'll be damned if I let her go on treating my nieces and nephew that way.  They deserve better than this bullshit.

I'll weather this storm, because it's worth it.  I don't regret speaking my mind about this.  OldSis has been making too many mistakes up until now and I have no reservations about pointing out what an idiot she's being over this new boyfriend of hers.

She moved way too quickly.  Again.  I've known for a long time that she has Daddy issues and I didn't go so far as to point that out to her, but she needed to hear how fucked up it is to drag her kids into her relationship by blaming them when something goes wrong.

However, in conclusion, I'll change the subject by saying that I got to meet an online friend of mine, today.  And I had a great time! Also, I met up with some more relatives I haven't seen in a while and it was great fun.  It's nice to be back among close family again.  Let's just hope that the next few months only get better for me.

/end rant